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Can our hearts tell the difference between real love and fictional love?

Okay, I knowanother blog where I reveal I'm just a tad crazy, but then again, all artists have to be a little nuts to dream up the things we create.

The funny thing is I’d been thinking about this yesterday, and this morning a Twitter friend sent me this great image.

When I write, I fall in love. Not just with the male protagonist, all of my characters. Don’t go looking for that straitjacket yet. The difference is I know they are not real, but sometimes I wonder if my heart does.

Yesterday, I had to do the obligatory running around: grocery shopping, gym, errands. You know, the stuff we put off until the last minute and then rush around to finish it.

Anyway, while I was out, I couldn’t stop thinking about my current work in progress. To the point I actually felt the butterflies of anticipation in my stomach. You remember those. Hey, I’ve been married twenty-three years, but I still remember the anticipation of our first kiss. The ache to see my love every minute of the day. Yes, I still feel that way, but life—as it’s supposed to—carries on and eventually you do have to return to work after the honeymoon is over.

My point is, as a writer, I get to experience these feelings every time I start a new book. And hopefully, as the reader, I do give you those same feelings, and you do fall in love.

So fall in love all you want to; I’ll write more.

Until next time, happy reading!


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  1. I'm so like you in that the male characters that I write about get under my skin and I can't stop thinking about them. It helps a lot especially when the husband sometimes acts like Homer Simpson

    1. LOL! Yours too? Ahhh...writing and reading. Our escape... Who needs drugs or Calgon? Okay...the Calgon is nice...I can take the book with me.


  2. LOVED this post! So true, you do think about your characters all the time when you're a writer! and it 8is* fun...

    1. Thank you for commenting, Veronica! I just can't deny I DO!!! I love them. Sometimes I get to the end of the book and think..."I'll never love again!"

      But then the new characters work their way into my thoughts, and I fall in love all over again. :)

  3. Good post! I have a good friend at work who also blames romantic novels for her unrealistically high expectations about men! You've inspired me to write my own views on this on my own blog! I'll let you know when I do!

    1. Thank you, Laila. I'm actually working on a post about comparing real men to characters as well, so we'll have to compare notes afterward. Please feel free to post your blog here when you finish. :)

      I will say one thing to your friend...depending on what she expects in a man of course. My answer to men... Why not read some of these expectations first hand? I told both my teenage sons to read 'Twilight' and 'The Last Song'. It wouldn't hurt men to get some 'ideas' and to respect women. It also wouldn't hurt for young girls to respect themselves a little more too. We can all have a little more romance in our lives if we try; it works both ways, don't you think? If you treat your man well, and let him know what you want...if he's a smart man, he'll usually try to reciprocate. :)

  4. Oh my gosh agree!
    I find it scary easy to fall in love when both reading and writing characters. Have done since I was very young, and I feel as though I have been judged upon it (possibly because I also do that annoying-talk-about-them-all-the-time thing to people who really just don't understand).
    Kelsey x

    1. LOL! I sooooo get that, Kelsey. I will be telling my husband about a scene, thinking that he's listening, and then all of the sudden, when I get to the juicy parts, he stops me... "Wait a minute? Is this a real story?"

      My answer... "It's real to me..." :)

      Never stop loving what you do...always fall in love with what you do, and when your *work* becomes a four-letter word, find a new job. Carry on, Kelsey! Fall in love all you want with your characters, as it'll make them more real to your readers.

      "No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader. No surprise in the writer, no surprise in the reader." — Robert Frost


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