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Write, read, edit, repeat. Again! Write, read, edit, repeat! A perfectionist will never be perfect.

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Some of you have heard me say that, and it’s funny, but it’s also a curse. It’s a sign of obsessive-compulsive behavior, which I have, but fortunately, I have learned to control—to some degree.

My father recognized this trait in me first. He saw that I would rearrange my room, throw away edible desserts, and wad up pages upon pages of notebook paper until I expressed my thoughts clearly.

He lovingly reprimanded me by saying, “A perfectionist will never be perfect.”

Wow, it was a hard lesson, and I don’t think I’ll ever master it, but I’ve learned to just let go, to not expect perfection in my house, my work, or my writing. I’m not perfect, and I never will be, but I will strive for a comfortable area where I do not have to work fifteen hours a day.

Please remember, I said, "try." I am a perfectionist, so I will strive for that elusive perfect anything to grasp on to. But when I don’t meet it, please give me a break; tell me softly, so I don’t agonize over my next step. :)



Thank you for stopping by my place and reading my musings. Remember, these are just my opinions and shouldn’t be taken too seriously. If you have questions, please feel free to leave them in the comment section, and I promise you I will answer.  If you’re curious about what I write, please visit one of my author pages, where you can read all about my novels and short stories. And hey, I’ll even give you a free book just for stopping by.



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  1. Melinda De RossThursday, October 04, 2018

    Great advice, Carmen! You are an inspiration <3

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    1. Carmen DeSousaThursday, October 04, 2018

      LOL! I try! They used to lock people like you and me up for OCD and the fact that we talk to our imaginary friends. :)

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