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Writing the perfect book, movie, song, play--the perfect anything--is impossible.

But that doesn't mean you should give up!

Writing the perfect book, the perfect male or female character, the perfect movie, song, play...the perfect impossible. Yes, impossible! Don't believe me... Take a look at some of your all-time favorite movies, books, plays, music...anything that you love. Someone, somewhere, hates it.

But you know what? That's okay!

Variety is the spice of life. If we all loved the same things, it would mean that everything would be the same. How boring would that be?


I can't count how many times hubby and I have been discussing an issue, and someone who doesn't know us well thought we were arguing. Hey, we've been married twenty-six years...that's how we talk. And we love it! If he agreed with everything I said or wanted, I'd think, 'Man, where's the tough guy I married?' and if I gave him everything he wanted... Well, he'd probably like it for a little while--he is a man, after all--but then, even men would get bored of a woman who agreed with everything they said and wanted.

So...don't worry when a few people don't like what you wrote, said, sung, drew... Look for--and be willing to learn from--the people who offer genuine constructive criticism on what they didn't like about what you did, as those are the only critiques that matter. The honest reviews that will help you get even better at your craft, whatever it is.

That said, yep, I have people who don't like what I write, but that's okay. I know my characters aren't for everyone. I don't write perfect heroes, just perfect gentlemen with a few flaws. I write stories about real people, dealing with real issues, facing real life. And yes, I've learned a lot in the last three years from those genuine reviewers I mentioned above--because I was willing to listen--and I'll keep learning, as long as I can type and read.

So, brush off your backside, get back on the horse, and get back to work, my friends!

Thank you for stopping by my place and reading my musings. Remember these are just my opinions and shouldn’t be taken too seriously. If you have questions, please feel free to leave them in the comment section, and I promise you I will answer.  If you’re curious about what I write, please visit one of my author pages, where you can read all about my novels and short stories. And hey, I’ll even give you a free book, just for stopping by.

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  1. Every writer needs to read this, hear this, and remember this every once in a while. Thank you for writing it!

    1. Thank you, Amy! I'm so glad you enjoyed my post and could take something with you, as that was my lift and encourage fellow readers.


  2. Well done, Carmen! I really enjoyed your post :) I will be keeping my eye out for those genuine reviews.


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